讗砖转 讞讬诇, Woman of Valor, King Soloman’s praise of women as the personification of wisdom, is an integral part of the Friday evening service


  • 聽Preparation for celebrating the Jewish Sabbath begins with cleaning the house.
  • The Biblical injunction to celebrate the Sabbath comes from the following paragraph in Genesis 2-1-4:
  • “The heaven and the earth were finished, and all their array. And on the seventh day God finished the work which He had been doing, and He ceased on the seventh day from all the work which He had done. And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy, because on it God ceased from all the work of creation which He had done. Such is the story of heaven and earth as they were created.”
  • From the Jewish Publication Society’s landmark translation in the 1950s on which my mother participated.
  • The Sabbath begins on Friday night at sundown, when candles are lit.
  • Candle lighting time聽for Lisbon, Portugal is shown in the following: link:聽http://www.chabad.org/calendar/candleLighting_cdo/c/297/jewish/Candle-Lighting.htm
  • This is candle lighting time for Williamsport PA, US:聽http://www.chabad.org/calendar/candleLighting_cdo/z/16801/jewish/Candle-Lighting.htm
  • Following the lighting of the candles:
  • A prayer is made over wine and you drink the wine
  • A blessing is made over bread and you eat the bread
  • You sit down at the dinner table and prepare to greet the Sabbath.
  • By tradition, the Sabbath is greeted as if she were a bride coming to the altar to say her wedding vows.
  • Before eating, the man of the house seated recites to his woman Solomon’s praise of women from Proverbs Chapter 31, v. 10-31.


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  • According the The New Oxford Annotated Bible: “Woman Wisdom is not just the embodiment of any young woman a man would seek as a wife , but she is also described in cosmic terms as having been present with God during聽creation.”
  • The most beautiful translation of the Bible [albeit, flawed with inaccuracies] is the King James version herein on聽Eisheth 岣yil:
  • 10聽Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.11聽The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.12聽She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.13聽She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.14聽She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.15聽She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.16聽She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.17聽She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.18聽She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.19聽She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.20聽She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.21聽She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.22聽She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.23聽Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.24聽She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

    25聽Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

    26聽She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

    27聽She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

    28聽Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

    29聽Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

    30聽Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

    31聽Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

  • Here is the Hebrew with vowels:

讗值纸砖侄讈转 讞址纸讬执诇 诪执讬 讬执诪职爪指讗, 讜职专指讞止拽 诪执驻职旨谞执讬谞执讬诐 诪执讻职专指讛旨.

  • 讘指旨纸讟址讞 讘指旨讛旨 诇值讘 讘址旨注职诇指讛旨, 讜职砖指讈诇指诇 诇止讗 讬侄讞职住指专.

    讙职旨诪指诇址纸转职讛讜旨 讟讜止讘 讜职诇止讗 专指注, 讻止旨诇 讬职诪值讬 讞址讬侄旨纸讬讛指.

    讚指旨专职砖指讈讛 爪侄纸诪侄专 讜旨驻执砖职讈转执旨讬诐, 讜址转址旨纸注址砖讉 讘职旨讞值纸驻侄抓 讻址旨驻侄旨纸讬讛指.

    讛指讬职转指讛 讻指旨讗殖谞执讬旨讜止转 住讜止讞值专, 诪执诪侄旨专职讞指拽 转指旨讘执讬讗 诇址讞职诪指讛旨.

    讜址转指旨纸拽指诐 讘职旨注讜止讚 诇址纸讬职诇指讛, 讜址转执旨转值旨谉 讟侄纸专侄祝 诇职讘值讬转指讛旨, 讜职讞止拽 诇职谞址注植专止转侄纸讬讛指.

    讝指诪职诪指讛 砖指讉讚侄讛 讜址转执旨拽指旨讞值纸讛讜旨, 诪执驻职旨专执讬 讻址驻侄旨纸讬讛指 谞指纸讟职注指讛 讻指旨纸专侄诐.

    讞指讙职专指讛 讘职注止讝 诪指转职谞侄纸讬讛指, 讜址转职旨讗址诪值旨抓 讝职专讜止注止转侄纸讬讛指.

    讟指注植诪指讛 讻执旨讬 讟讜止讘 住址讞职专指讛旨, 诇止讗 讬执讻职讘侄旨讛 讘址诇址旨纸讬职诇指讛 谞值专指讛旨.

    讬指讚侄纸讬讛指 砖执讈诇职旨讞指讛 讘址讻执旨讬砖讈讜止专, 讜职讻址驻侄旨纸讬讛指 转指旨纸诪职讻讜旨 驻指纸诇侄讱职.

    讻址旨驻指旨讛旨 驻指旨专职砖指讉讛 诇侄注指谞执讬, 讜职讬指讚侄纸讬讛指 砖执讈诇职旨讞指讛 诇指讗侄讘职讬讜止谉.

    诇止讗 转执讬专指讗 诇职讘值讬转指讛旨 诪执砖指旨纸讈诇侄讙, 讻执旨讬 讻指诇 讘值旨讬转指讛旨 诇指讘只砖讈 砖指讈谞执讬诐.

    诪址专职讘址讚执旨讬诐 注指纸砖职讉转指讛 诇指旨讛旨, 砖值讈砖讈 讜职讗址专职讙指旨诪指谉 诇职讘讜旨砖指讈讛旨.

    谞讜止讚指注 讘址旨砖职旨讈注指专执讬诐 讘址旨注职诇指讛旨, 讘职旨砖执讈讘职转旨讜止 注执诐 讝执拽职谞值讬 讗指纸专侄抓.

    住指讚执讬谉 注指砖职讉转指讛 讜址转执旨诪职讻止旨专, 讜址讞植讙讜止专 谞指转职谞指讛 诇址讻职旨谞址注植谞执讬.

    注止讝 讜职讛指讚指专 诇职讘讜旨砖指讈讛旨, 讜址转执旨砖职讉讞址拽 诇职讬讜止诐 讗址讞植专讜止谉.

    驻执旨纸讬讛指 驻指旨转职讞指讛 讘职讞指讻职诪指讛, 讜职转纸讜止专址转 讞侄纸住侄讚 注址诇 诇职砖讈讜止谞指讛旨.

    爪讜止驻执讬指旨讛 讛植诇执讬讻讜止转 讘值旨讬转指讛旨, 讜职诇侄纸讞侄诐 注址爪职诇讜旨转 诇止讗 转止讗讻值诇.

    拽指纸诪讜旨 讘指谞侄纸讬讛指 讜址讬职讗址砖职旨讈专纸讜旨讛指, 讘址旨注职诇指讛旨 讜址讬职讛址诇职诇指讛旨.

    专址讘旨讜止转 讘指旨谞讜止转 注指纸砖讉讜旨 讞指纸讬执诇, 讜职讗址转职旨 注指诇执讬转 注址诇 讻只旨诇指旨纸谞指讛.

    砖侄纸讈拽侄专 讛址讞值谉 讜职讛侄纸讘侄诇 讛址讬止旨纸驻执讬, 讗执砖指旨讈讛 讬执专职讗址转 讬职讬指 讛执讬讗 转执转职讛址诇指旨诇.

    转职旨谞讜旨 诇指讛旨 诪执驻职旨专执讬 讬指讚侄纸讬讛指, 讜执讬讛址诇职诇纸讜旨讛指 讘址砖职旨讈注指专执讬诐


For Spanish, see above video.


N.B.: Following the recitation of聽Eisheth 岣yil, one eats, sings, and celebrates the Sabbath with joy.


Copyright 2014 by Joel Solkoff. All rights reserved.


SUBSTITUTE. Katy Perry still plays Cleopatra not going down the Nile; an indoor exploding Cleopatra


My apologies:

Katy Perry IS Cleopatra here. She is NOT going down the Nile River.

Instead, here is a different version.

This version is an indoor live concert complete with singing, screaming and dancing attractive audiences formed in a circle around the kind of floor show displays lavish Las Vegas made famous.

[Full disclosure: I dated a belly dancer who performed in Las Vegas. This personal notice may indicate I know something about The Las Vegas I Imagine Las Vegas To Be.]

Katy Perrry puts on a good show.聽

Permission to use on this site the going down the Nile version was at first canceled by Vimeo


I recommend you watch this outdoor version.

there. 聽First watch聽the indoor YouTube version that leads today’s posting. Third Is another Vimeo version of Red Horse where Katy Perry sports purple hair.


In many ways this is the best version of Katy Perry’s video ‘Dark Horse”. I do not understand the relevance of the song title to the theme.

Here Katy Perry appears聽dazzlingly outfitted in costumes commonly used by Cleopatra “a long time ago.”

Flashing strobe lights emphasize the pyramid theme. We see laser beams flashing animated pyramids of all shapes and sizes. This is Domain PERRY /聽CLEOPATRA:

  • Katy is wheeled in a chariot.
  • Is carried on chair.
  • Kills beautifully costumed people with her magic rays.

RECOMMENDATION. Watch this video as a silent movie. Much聽as I love Katy Perry’s singing….

Take a pause and watch it with the sound off.

I watch this video over and over because I think of myself as an Apprentice Cinematographer. I am now studying camera angles.



  1. Dark Horse
    Song by Katy Perry
I knew you were
You were gonna come to me
And here you are
But you better choose carefully
‘Cause I’m capable of anything
Of anything and everything
Make me your Aphrodite
Make me your one and only
But don’t make me your enemy, your enemy, your enemy
So you wanna play with magic
Boy, you should know whatcha falling for
Baby do you dare to do this
‘Cause I’m coming atcha like a dark horse
Are you ready for ready for
A perfect storm, a perfect storm
‘Cause once you’re mine, once you’re mine
There’s no going back


The danger of “living wills”–a post surgical analysis

Of all my many preparations for surgery–including signing up for Premium Spotify [worth it]–creating a valid Living Will exercised far too much time.

I can and may list the valid rationale for having a Living Will, which here in Pennsylvania is called officially a Durable Power of Attorney.

Durable means (as lovers of the English language are encouraged to deplore) limited.

The person selected to execute my living will can only take care of my health care decisions–decisions I have listed in advance (see below) and which She, as it turns out, may only make following my explicit instructions (see below) and is not allowed to vary from my instructions at all.

My agent does not have authority to act for me for any other purpose unrelated to my health care. All of my agent’s actions under this power during any period when I am unable to make or communicate health care decisions have the same effect on my heirs, devisees and personal representatives as if I were competent and acting for myself.

To tell the truth, I would much rather watch a Shania Twain video than go through the gut-wrenching process of picking the person who will turn off the plug if I emerge from surgery a聽rutabaga.

Here is the video I would rather see than execute a Living Will.


The problem with going into surgery which I knew would be successful聽(and indeed the surgery was successful) was encountering flak from a variety of sources.

One of these sources was my elder daughter 聽Joanna, who has two honor degrees in nursing and is convinced–perhaps rightly so–that she knows everything.

Joanna insisted that she be the one to pull the plug.

photo 2

In April I had had the foresight to executed a previous Living Will at my hospital bed, but once out of bed and back and forth to New York for reasons I will not explain (or may) I had to change the document.

For one thing, the April Living Will made the assumption that it was unfair to ask my daughters to perform such a task; my friends would spare them the guilt of pulling the plug. This assumption was wrong and in a way I cannot quite describe demeaning to them.


In preparing for August surgery at Memorial Sloan-Kettering with the Living Will, I thought I was just going through the motions.

Then. Joanna said, “[Expletive deleted] I am a nurse. If anyone should pull the plug it should be me. Anyway, I would not be pulling the plug. I would be telling someone else to pull the plug.”

Meanwhile, my friend Pinhas had complained that in April he had been made second in line to pull the plug and wanted to be first; plus, my April number one batter up was afraid she did not have the medical knowledge.

Finally, Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center required (actually requested–it is optional) an updated Living Will plus other relevant documentation I will bother you with.


My wishes. Clearly, some of my wishes did not matter at all. Others did, but not now–meaning not before August 8th and my kidney operation.

The primary reason I was filling out a Living Will was because I wanted to please the Administrators at the hospital where I was about to have surgery. If they saw that I was a responsible enough citizen to fill out the expletive deleted form, they would decide I was a right guy, guaranteeing some slack later when I behaved poorly–as I did.

I really and truly did not want anyone to take the document seriously. It was one of a list of items on my clipboard, the least important, and one that took up attention from more important things (which I will list for you eventually, but can be summed up with this video from Bessie Smith) :

Here is a salient excerpt from the Pennsylvania Living Will form, which is a lot simpler to fill out than you might expect:

I direct that my health care providers and others involved in my care provide, withhold, or withdraw treatment in accordance with my directions below:

  1. If I have an incurable and irreversible (terminal) condition that will result in my death within a relatively short time, I direct that:
    • I be removed from any artificial life support or any additional life-prolonging treatment. ______ my initials
    • I not be artificially administered food and water, realizing this may hasten my death. ______ my initials
    • I not be provided any comfort, care and relief from pain, including any pain reduction medication, if the effect would be to prolong my life. ______ my initials
  1. If I am diagnosed as being in an irreversible coma and, to a reasonable degree of medical certainty, I will not regain consciousness, I direct that:
    • I be removed from any artificial life support or any additional life-prolonging treatment. ______ my initials
    • I not be artificially administered food and water, realizing this may hasten my death. ______ my initials
    • I not be provided any comfort, care and relief from pain , including any pain reduction medication, if the effect would be to prolong my life. ______ my initials
  1. If I am diagnosed as being in a persistent vegetative state and, to a reasonable degree of medical certainty, I will not regain consciousness, I direct that:
    • I be removed from any artificial life support or any additional life-prolonging treatment. ______ my initials
    • I not be artificially administered food and water, realizing this may hasten my death. ______ my initials
    • I not be provided any comfort, care and relief from pain, including any pain reduction medication, if the effect would be to prolong my life. ______ my initials

Regarding item 1, I answered: “I be removed from any artificial life support or any additional life-prolonging treatment

Item 2, I answered: “I not be artificially administered food and water, realizing this may hasten my death.”

Item 3. I answered: “I be removed from any artificial life support or any additional life-prolonging treatment.”


Time for another video:



The PA Living Will form states what I told the form I wanted. Period. See:

“My agent’s powers include, but are not limited to:

“Full power to consent, refuse consent, or withdraw consent to all medical, surgical, hospital and related health care treatments and procedures on my behalf, according to my wishes as stated in this document…”

Other language makes clear: My Agent has no choice but to pull the plug because that is my wish as stated in this document.

The fact that none of my would be agents realized that they had no power at all to effect my major decisions was of no concern to them. What was of concern to them was my welfare. They love me. They want what is best for me. Instead, I had to spend time explaining this expletive deleted stuff to them and the more I explained the more frightened 聽they became until, naturally, a discussion began about my funeral. [I do not want a funeral; I want a Democrat elected governor of Pennsylvania next year.]


Perhaps a photograph unrelated to anything might prove useful here:



Naturally, the situation became complicated. Naturally, for me. Naturally, for the situation.

I was preparing for an operation in New York on August 8th. Why was I worrying about a durable power of attorney in Pennsylvania when the operation was happening in New York AND Memorial Sloan Kettering requested I provide a valid New York State form?

Not the same form, of course. That would be too easy. The New York State form is entitled, “A Health Care Proxy.” The proxy delegates someone to be my health care agent: “In the event I have been been determined to be incapable of providing informed consent for medical treatment and surgical diagnostic procedures.”

Enter a useful attorney whom we will call Hadley V. Baxendale, a moniker he likes. Hadley had three recommendations:

1. Since I live in Pennsylvania and have been hospitalized several times in this Commonwealth, a valid PA Living Will is a good idea.

2. The New York form is limited in stating explicitly the powers an agent can have. Link the two documents for New York so the New York agent is required to follow the more detailed directives in the PA form–having the two notarized together which I did at the American Cancer Society’s Hope Lodge where I temporarily stayed before and after the surgery. I handed that two-in one document in on Surgery Day to someone entirely covered in white who said, “Thank you. I will put it in your folder.”

3. Hadley said, “There is room in the PA form for additional instructions. Let me begin by asking you the following questions.” I minded answering each question. The Aristotelian/Talmudic logic behind legal–especially good legal–thinking drives me crazy. So, I had to answer how much of a vegetable I was willing to be before I was willing to have someone pull the plug. What percentage of postoperative disability I was willing to take. And other tranquil questions designed to put me in the mood for surgery.


Time for another song.



The upshot was that because they were actually present and available my younger daughter Amelia and my sister Sarah Schmerler were designated NY Health Care Agents for me.

Amelia first. Sarah if Amelia were unavailable.

Both spent my operation time weeping at the old Whitney Museum just before Renzo Piano creates his magic and builds a New Piano Whitney. I have seen a photograph of the two together waiting in front of a sign explaining Piano’s future vision, but can not find the photo. Alas.

This is unfortunate because I could then explain that while each were waiting with their iPhone ringers on in case a major medical decision was required in their capacity as my Agents, Dr. Russo figured out how to close the wound all by himself.


One more song and then a conclusion (I hope). Brief (I hope).


聽Certainly, having a Living Will is an excellent idea. It is not an excellent idea when you are going into the hospital and have an excellent chance of survival. Then, having intense discussions about your wishes if you are incapacitated beyond redemption takes on an unfortunate side trip past where you want to be and what you want to talk about with your loved ones.

Here is a photo of my sister Sarah getting in shape to be my alternate Health Proxy. Did the enormous time involved in, for example, notarizing the Pennsylvania document in PA and two days later notarizing the New York document (with notarized PA) document attached and also notarized–gathering two witnesses each time. My appreciation to my Rep. in the Pennsylvania House Scott Conklin for making his office available for that purpose. [The Democrats could win the governorship with the right team. Conklin ran for lieutenant governor in the last election and lost. I hoping that he will run as a running mate with Allyson Schwartz and win.] {Whoops. I got off subject.}

A non-partisan thanks to Lorrainne Katt, Manager of the American Cancer Society’s Hope Lodge where I lived with Amelia, my daughter, as my caregiver. Lorraine in short order assembled a notary, another witness and signed the document herself.


This is Amelia several months ago drinking happily in Spain.


Amelia arrived in New York on Monday evening in time for the rules instruction at Hope Lodge where she took up residence as my health care provider that evening. The next day we…The following day, a meeting with Dr. Paul Russo, my surgeon, a wonderful physical therapist, and an intense examination to make sure I would not die under the knife–intense.

Then…Thursday brought the surgery. Would never have discussing all the paperwork have helped me through time that followed the operation. Absolutely.


Another unrelated photo courtesy of the Morgan Library and Museum:



A man’s gotta do what a man’s got to do.

I am thinking of me in this role. Filling out a Living Will is certainly a grown up thing to do. It is not a good idea to leave family and loved ones guessing about one’s intentions. The best way to do it is when there are no health issues involved. At nearly 66 years old, I should have been grown up enough to fill out the farm during a pacific time when asking family and loved members their thoughts did not bring out the intense emotion this exercise did.

Perhaps, the lesson of the angst of the Living Will taught me how to be a grown up. Perhaps.

–Joel Solkoff

Copyright 漏 2013 by Joel Solkoff. All rights reserved.

Before Arlo Guthrie sings all the words to Alice’s Restaurant, I would like to thank Law Depot www.lawdepot.com This online service provides forms that fit the requirements of the PA Living Will form and NY’s Health Care Agent form. Each can be easily modified or modified only to include names and addresses. A great service.


Having 11 children is likely to wear a woman out

“There is some debate as to the year of Hooker’s birth聽in聽Coahoma County, Mississippi,聽the youngest of the eleven children of William Hooker a聽sharecropper聽and Baptist preacher, and Minnie Ramsey (born 1875, date of death unknown [but, I bet, she was all wore out at the time {(My suggestion to Wikipedia)};according to his official website, he was born on August 22, 1917.”

Above is my editorial suggestion for 聽revising the first paragraph of Wikipedia’s biography of John Lee Hooker.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Lee_Hooker


From Wikipedia [I love Wikipedia–Diderot is drinking champagne in heaven, celebrating Wikipedia] comes this description of how Joe Lee Hooker came to write his most popular song Boom! Boom!]:

“According to Hooker, he wrote the song during an extended engagement at the Apex Bar in Detroit. ‘I would never be on time; I always would be late comin’ in. And she [the bartender Willa] kept saying, ‘Boom boom鈥攜ou late again’. Every night: ‘Boom, boom鈥攜ou late again’. I said ‘Hmm, that’s a song!'”

Thanks to the miracle of YouTube you can watch here Joe Lee Hooker’s performance of Boom! Boom! in 1962:

At the same time, you can sneak a peek at the lyrics for聽Boom! Boom! by John Lee Hooker:

Boom boom boom boom
I’m gonna shoot you right down,
right offa your feet
Take you home with me,
put you in my house
Boom boom boom boom
A-haw haw haw haw
Hmmm hmmm hmmm hmmm
Hmmm hmmm hmmm hmmm

I love to see you strut,
up and down the floor
When you talking to me,
that baby talk
I like it like that
Whoa, yeah!
Talk that talk, walk that walk

When she walk that walk,
and talk that talk,
and whisper in my ear,
tell me that you love me
I love that talk
When you talk like that,
you knocks me out,
right off of my feet
Hoo hoo hoo
Talk that talk, and walk that walk

[Editorial note: Thank you:聽http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/martinscorsesebestoftheblues/boomboom.htm]

In conclusion:

When she walk that walk,
and talk that talk,
and whisper in my ear,
tell me that you love me
I love that talk

I could not have said it better myself.


–Joel Solkoff

Copyright 漏 2013 by Joel Solkoff. All rights reserved.